WARNING: MAY CONTAIN SPOILERS!!
The Downsides of Being A Wallflower
Charlie Muller 806
10/19/14
Wallflower- a person who has no one to dance with or who feels shy, awkward, or excluded at a party.
In the novel, “The Perks of Being a Wallflower” by Steven Chbosky, Charlie the protagonist is starting his freshman year at high school. At first he has trouble making friends, (besides his English teacher), but, eventually he meets Sam and Patrick who became his lifelong friends. At first his friends call him a “wallflower”. But, Charlie experiences many new things with Sam and Patrick such as drugs, The Rocky Horror Picture Show, sex, and love in this riveting coming of age novel and he isn’t a wallflower.Throughout the novel Charlie is portrayed as a very loving person, but he sacrifices too much for the people that he loves.
First, Charlie’s compassion is shown through his willingness to sacrifice his happiness for others’ happiness. For instance, “I realized that through out the course of the evening , I wasn’t happy about Craig and Sam breaking up. Not at all. I never once thought that it would mean Sam might start liking me. All I cared about was the fact that Sam got really hurt. I guess I realized at that moment that I really did love her. Because there was nothing to gain, and that didn’t matter” (p.179). Sam found out that her boyfriend, Craig, was cheating on her, and they broke up. Sam was very angry and felt very powerless and humiliated. In this moment Craig and Craig’s friend, Peter were fighting about how Craig should have told Sam that he was cheating on her. Patrick and Charlie helped break up the fight between Peter and Craig. Charlie was observing everything happening but also, he helped. Often Charlie zones out when something happens that makes life seem like it’s not real. But in this moment, he chose to help and not just watch the fight happen. It is significant that Charlie is not just watching this happen because in other moments Charlie has just watched things happen. Namely, when Charlie’s sister’s boyfriend hit her, he just stood and watched in shock. I really think this shows how much Charlie had developed and changed.This quote has a very sympathetic feeling and tone to it, and when I read this quote, I felt very sympathetic to Charlie because he doesn’t feel like he should be able to love Sam in the way he wants to. This shows that Charlie is very kind person and he really cares about how his friends feel. A strong distinction, when Charlie was “busy” worrying and sympathizing with Sam, he wasn’t thinking about what he wanted; to be with Sam. Sam eventually tells Charlie that she did indeed want to be with him in this moment. Charlie could’ve been with the girl he truly loved, but instead he was occupied being altruistic.
In addition, Charlie’s benevolence is demonstrated through his ability and willingness to help others. Specifically, when Charlie’s sister tells him she is pregnant he drives her to an abortion clinic. “When I thought that[Charlie was thinking about a memory of when Charlie and his sister talked about where babies come from, then he started to cry, Charlie and his sister were very innocent in the moment of this memory, and now they are experiencing very scary things together], I started to cry. But I couldn't let anyone see me because if they did, they might call our parents. And I couldn’t let that happen because my sister was counting on me”(p. 118) Charlie brings his sister to an abortion clinic because her boyfriend got her pregnant. Within this quote a very ashamed mood or tone is represented, because Charlie would feel very guilty if someone saw him crying. This quote makes me feel very sad because there is no one there to support or comfort Charlie. This quote demonstrates how benign and kind Charlie is. Yet, while Charlie helped and comforted his sister there was no one there to comfort Charlie when he wept.
One important message in this novel, being altruistic is a valuable trait to have. It suggests that being loving and kind; helping others when they need a hand; and putting others before yourself; are very selfless things to do. These small acts of kindness really do benefit others. This teaches readers that being a good friend and having a willingness to help others are traits that are important, especially for adolescent readers, as the novel’s intended audience is teenagers. I myself am becoming a teenager and right now, as an eighth grader, I am in the process of deciding which high school I want to go to. Some of my friends who are interested in music want to go to the Laguardia High School, but I am more intrigued by academic and humanities oriented schools. I want to be at a high school with my friends, but at the same time I also want to go to a high school that I like. This process of picking a high school is very similar to Charlie’s situation in Chbosky's novel. The book teaches that you must take care of yourself and think of what you want.